Who Says?

while shopping at the mall today i saw a lot of insecure people....
people who were tall, short, thin, and thick....
it really kind of opened my eyes, seeing everyone react the way they did today....and most people wouldnt even see what i am talking about, they would just keep their eyes forward....
but me, being the observant kind of girl, noticed this kind of thing today. and i just wanted to make a blog about it to share with you guys.

i guess i should start with where i first noticed it....
i was walking into the Salem Mall downtown, and as i started up the escalator i noticed a woman look behind her at the girl standing in front of me. now, this girl was probably just as old as i was and the woman looked to be a little bit older than myself. and immediately after glancing at the girl in front of me, she looked away and adjusted her clothing, and purse and just kind of looked ahead of her...but it wasnt hard to tell that she felt a little....uncomfortable. that's the first thing i noticed.

later when i was in Torrid (my alltime fav. plus size clothing store!)
i was walking through the pathway and one of the sales clerks smiled at me and asked if there was anything she could help me with. and i honestly just wanted to try on a pair of size 16 pants, to see if they actually would fit  (because of how much weight i have been losing i figured why not right?) and she showed me the BEST jeans that i just fell in love with! but it wasnt until i went out to show my aunt what they looked like on me, that i really caught her expression...
she was a little bigger than myself, but completely GEORGEOUS! and she just kind of looked like she wanted to do what i was doing. i'm not saying that is what was really happening, but with her body language and expression, i could see that she wasnt exactly thrilled....but i called her over and asked her what she thought and for some fashion advice and her face lit up right away. and i told her that she had a really good taste in fashion, and that i hope to see her again soon for more. and it just seemed to make her happy..
but when i was walking out of the store, on the first floor i saw two girls walking out of hottopic, revealing things that should be covered up, and i noticed that they were walking off without their friend i guess because some girl ran up to them and was all like "you didnt wait for me lol"
and as i watched, i kind of saw the two girls kind of shun away from that other girl (who was a little bigger than them) and she just kind of seemed to push it off and try to get their attention...

and so on...

so here's what i have to say..
who has the right to make anyone feel like they are not good enough being themselves?
you should be PROUD to look the way you do! big small, short, tall, freckles, blemishes, long hair, short hair WHO CARES! you are BEAUTIFUL inside and out!

so who says, that you cant look absolutely sexy being a little more on the chunky side? maybe you fill it out better than the girls who are nothing but sticks!!
it's how YOU look, and how YOU see yourself is SO SO important :)

and for all those girls who aren't on the chunky side, you guys are beautiful as well!!
so what if you have a tiny bit of pudge in places! we all do! you dont have to be a certain size to define your own natural beauty!!

and anyone who is inbetween, or not. IT DOESNT MATTER!!!
we are ALL beautiful!
so the next time you go to be a critic towards yourself, DONT!
look at yourself and instead of picking out the BAD things that you dont like, try picking out the GOOD things :) and try making more of the good than the bad.
we are all made differently, no one can look exactly like those models plus size or not.
because the reality of it is, is that most of those models, dont even look like they do in the advertisements.
most of them are all PHOTOSHOPPED...so imagine how that would make the model feel knowing that even as she is naturally, they STILL have to photoshop that picture of her....

so just take that into consideration for a moment..
i used to bash myself all the time. until i started looking at the positives, and not the negatives.
women: look at how your legs look in those sexy jeans you took SO long to put on!
or how about those shoes you wanted soo bad that cost you most of your extra money that are killing your feet!? but they look sooo good :)
or how about that new bra you wanted so you could wear that one shirt :) your top half looks amazing and you couldnt feel better about it!
dont worry about your knees, or your elbows, or your chin, or your butt, or ankles, or how broad or narrow your shoulders are! who cares anyways? we all have them, and they're not all perfect, it's not like we go around staring at those particular points on other people. so what makes you think that other people do it to you? your body is YOURS and that alone makes it perfect!

and men: some of you throw whatever looks alright, some of you have to go for the comfort, some of you dont care either way as long as it looks good, and some of you HAVE to make way like a woman lol and make sure nothing is imperfect and things match, etc... (shout out to all the fellow gay men!!)
dont worry about it. your hair looks fine!
your breath doesnt smell (most of the time lol)
who cares if you havent showered that day!? some women like to smell your natural scent! (no not your arm pit stank lol.)
your muscles look fine, no matter how big.
you guys are exactly perfect the way you are too!! now, i may not know a whole lot about the way a man thinks when it comes to fashion, or when it comes to looking decent....but i know enough to say, that you dont have to worry about anything either.
put your ego to rest, and love what you have! ALL OF YOU.
it's not all a contest. because what you have...is exactly perfect for YOU.
you dont have to put other dudes down for not having what you have, or what someone else has.

did you know? that most male models (the ones who do the whole underwear thing) lose a little of their pride, because according to statistics, almost every photographer makes them STUFF their underwear so that they look much bigger than they do just to attract people for their advertisement?
ever think of that?
i bet not..
did you know? that most men, who do those kind of ad's, actually dont like their self image off set, because of how drastically they have to change their image sometimes to meet the mark of what the photographer is looking for? .... that's not ok...

who says that your not perfect the way you are? why cant we just be put into the world for what we look like and who we are?
i know that i would much rather see an ad with a REAL guy or girl on it showing their IMPERFECTIONS than the photoshop...because i like to be practical when it comes to things.
and lets be real for a second.
if they photoshop the living shit out of the pictures....how in the HELL are we supposed to really know and count on what to expect when we go out to look at what is being advertized? .....

i vote for all natural! because that's how we all were brought into this world, and that's how we are going to go out!
any one else agree??